For some people, rumination hits them hard and anxiety often shows up uninvited while they are having sex.
Thinking about if the sheets are getting dirty or your partner cares about your love handle is FAR FROM “pleasure” and having “enjoyable sex”.
If this sounds like you, you might have noticed that when you are constantly worrying about how well you are doing or whether you look sexy to your partner during sex,
then you cannot
concentrate on your pleasure and your partner notices it too.
DEACTIVATES THE SEXUAL MOOD
Anxiety is an emotion that traps the mind into worrying about the past or catastrophizing about the future. It can have an impact on your sexual function and mental health.
more than just a physical response and your emotions have much to do with it.
When your mind is too stressed out to focus on sex, your body cannot get
excited either, and it leads to Sexual Performance Anxiety.
Anxiety can take you out of the right mindset for sex.
When you are focused on whether you will perform
well or not, you cannot concentrate on what you are doing or feeling in bed.
Even if you get aroused, you may be too distracted to reach orgasm.
MY THOUGHTS STICK IN MY HEAD?
Anxiety related to sex is not diagnosed as often in women as in men but it can affect arousal in women too.
Anxiety can prevent women from getting lubricated enough to have sex and can
take away the physical desire to make love.
Many different worries can
lead to anxiety such as:
Fear that you will not perform well
in bed and satisfy your partner sexually
Poor body image — including concern
about your weight
Not being able to have an orgasm or
enjoy the sexual experience
Problems in your relationship
These things may lead your
body to release hormones like Cortisol (the primary stress hormone). Hormone
levels rise as a stress response and can interfere with the hormones
responsible for sexual arousal.
NO RIGHT WAY TO HAVE SEX, SO JUST ENJOY THE MOMENT!
In general, we know that intercourse
without orgasm is not good — but is it really so?
Orgasm does not need to be
the culmination of sexual experience, and only 8% of people with a vagina have
a reliable orgasm from penile–vagina intercourse.
Instead of finding the
reason why you cannot have an orgasm, try to learn and gain experience from
other sexual encounters. And try to see if it is pleasure, closeness, stress
reduction, or something else that helps.
There’s no right way to enjoy sex. Anxiety can quickly and easily distract you from desire and leave you feeling uncomfortable and alone.
As soon as you start stepping into the
thinking mind and out of your feelings, anxiety takes over and wins.
So keep reminding yourself
to step back from engaging with all your thoughts and focus on what you feel at
COMFORTABLE IN THE MOMENT FOR BETTER SEX!
The most intimate moment you can share with another human being is when having sex.
So give yourself
permission to focus on what is happening in your body and take a step back from
all those thoughts running around in your head. Just ENJOY!
wettrust repair series will help you find your pleasure and feelings back!